TOP 10 TIPS FOR JOY

It is easy to get caught up in our materialistic society that equates feeling joyful and happy in life with acquiring material possessions. If we just have that new home, new car, new dress, etc, then we will be filled with joy...... or will we? When we do manage to purchase any of these material things, why is the associated joy and happiness usually so short-lived?

The answer is simple - the Heart and Soul are still lacking in Joy, only the mind or ego has temporary satisfaction until it needs the next 'fix' of obtaining more material possessions.

My work and passion is to help you awaken to more Heart and Soul Joy in your life, in simple, free or low-cost ways to make your Heart and Soul sing and feel truly alive.

My favourite Top 10 Tips to make your Heart and Soul sing with Joy:
1. An Attitude of Gratitude and Appreciation - Start and end every day by making a list in your mind or on in a journal of at least 5 things you are grateful for, no matter how small. It may be something as simple as your soft, warm bed or the sounds of birds outside. As you regularly focus more on all the good things you already have in your life your vibration will raise, allowing you to feel more joy in your daily life.

2. Spend Time in Nature - Go to a beautiful place in nature, such as a local park, garden, natural bushland, mountains, lake or seaside. Tune in to the energies of the trees, birds, native animals and water. Enjoy watching a sunrise or sunset in quiet contemplation or with friends. Standing in sunshine, feel energetic dross being transmuted from your energy field. Allow the energy of tall trees to drain any negativity from you.

3. Watch Children or Animals at Play - Find yourself totally involved in the moment as you watch the spontaneity and free flowing of emotions of children or animals at play. To distance yourself from any worrying thoughts, cuddle, play with or watch a happy animal. Their curiosity and delight engross you instantly.

4. Daily Laughter - Laughing exercises more muscles in the face than anything else and feels so good you just want to do more. Watch or read something funny on a regular basis to uplift your mood. A good belly laugh is a great way of relieving pent-up stress. Practise laughing for 10 minutes a day. Even if you don't think you have anything funny in your life, just watch yourself trying to laugh and you will find the ridiculousness of your attempt will trigger you into genuine laughter. Consider joining a local laughter group.

5. Fun Times with Friends - Schedule in regular time to reconnect with your social network, whether it be by phone, email, or going out together. Good friends can be our free therapist, our laughter buddy and a chance to just relax and switch off from daily challenges.

6. Reward Yourself for Achieving Goals - Each time you reach a pre-determined goal, no matter how small, reward yourself with a special treat that nourishes mind and body - perhaps a movie, going out to dinner, catching up with a friend, gulit-free downtime or visiting a special place. For the effort you have given out you are now allowing yourself to receive back, which is a powerful act of self-love.

7. Let Your Inner Child Play - It is too easy to believe that as an adult you must always be serious, disciplined and responsible. How boring! What does your inner child, that playful part inside you, want to do to have some harmless fun? Is it swinging in the park, dancing, watching cartoons, playing a game, eating a favourite food from childhood? Relax, let you inner child out to play on a regular basis and feel the joy in your life.

8. Forgive Yourself and Others - The longer you hold onto unforgiveness of those you perceive have wronged you, the more the corrosive effect it has on your mind and physical body. You have already been hurt by someone else, do you now want to compound that hurt by damaging yourself emotionally or physically? Chances are the person who has wronged you has forgotten all about it, so the only person you are hurting by holding onto unforgiveness is yourself. Practise forgiveness on a regular basis, knowing that the gift of forgiveness is for yourself. Forgive yourself for all the hurt and other emotions you have been holding onto that have been damaging you and then visualise bundling it all up and letting it go.

9. Eat Nourishing Food as close to its natural state as possible - What we eat influences our moods and behaviours far more than most of us realise. For instance, many people feel heavy, lethargic and energetically-flat after eating wheat-based foods. Eating chocolate can give you a quick high, which is quickly replaced by mild depression, causing you to seek another chocolate 'fix'. The conglomeration of additives, artificial colours, flavourings and preservatives found in the majority of packaged foods challenge our good mood and our immune system. Endeavour to eat fresh food and prepare meals yourself with basic, recognizable ingredients, organic if possible.

10. Try Something New - What have you had in the back of your mind that you would like to try - maybe painting, salsa dancing, enrolling in a personal development course or anything else that catches your interest? Just do it, let your creative juices flow and feel your spirits soar!

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Resilience

My garden is my pride and joy and it broke my heart to see the beautiful plants being cooked in place in the extreme heat over summer. Combined with the drought conditions, many of these plants appeared to die completely. Then the miracle happened. The inner Resilience of these plants refused to let them die and with the first decent rainfall they seemed to be reborn as green leaves appeared and the grass regenerated. All those plants that would normally have flowered over summer, but had been struggling to just exist, suddenly burst forth into bud. Now the garden is filled with flowers, such as magnolias, flowering completely out of season. It is as if the plants are saying to me, "Look at me. I am beautiful. I'm a survivor!"

Our greatest challenges in life are usually our greatest teachers, whether it be through a difficult relationship, serious illness, caring for terminally ill loved ones, an unexpected job loss, addictive behaviour, being bullied or anything that pushes us well out of our comfort zone. Something I have noticed many times over the years is the difference between people in their ability to cope with challenging life circumstances. The key is their level of Resilience -their ability to pick themselves up again after being knocked down, dust themselves off and get on with life versus getting energetically stuck in the experience, which stops them from moving forward and stunts the opportunity for emotional growth.

This Resilience, or lack thereof, is likely to be the result of genetic predispositions involved, the available repertoire of coping skills and other people's responses to the person. Often that person will soon realize there are secondary gains by getting stuck in 'poor me' victim mentality, such as getting extra care from others and being able to avoid certain responsibilities. Unfortunately these perceived secondary gains deny the opportunity to develop Resilience and to fully participate in a joyful, high vibration life of the present.

If you are stuck in the past, blaming all your current misery on events that happened long ago, isn't about time you gave yourself the gift of letting all those heavy vibrations go and allowing yourself to see the beauty that is all around you now? After all, the Law of Attraction states that we get what we focus on, so why not make it something pleasurable? Walk in a park, watch a beautiful sunrise or sunset, stroll along the beach, treat yourself to a soul-nurturing activity. Just because things were really bad for you for a while and you may have experienced a whole range of emotions like anger, frustration, sadness, grief, depression, despair and helplessness, that doesn't mean that you have to hold onto those emotions and allow them to manifest in the body as disease (dis-ease) and disharmony. Have you ever watched a child go from crying in frustration to happily playing within a few seconds, just because a child feels the e-motion (energy in motion), expresses it and then lets it go?

Even if you are currently undergoing major life challenges now, search deep within yourself to find that inner power, that Resilience, those coping skills that will help you to find the meaning to the experience and to learn any lessons it has to offer.

Just remember the plants in my garden - when they were so battered by the extreme conditions over summer that it looked as if they had given up, they still held onto the thread of life force deep within that allowed them once again to burst forth into their magnificence. No matter what challenges life throws at you, stand tall and proud and let your true beauty bloom.

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How To Find Inner Stillness

For many people the most difficult thing to master in their self-development journey is the ability to find Inner Stillness, that pure place within you that is your divine spark, your connection to all that is and the source of inspirational and transformational ideas.

I would like to share with you a relatively simple technique I have developed that most people interested in self-development will be able to master with a little practice.

First, find yourself a quiet, comfortable place where you can lie undisturbed for about 20 minutes. As a "fascinated observer" focus on your right hand and become aware of the tingling sensations in your right hand. This may take a couple of minutes to develop, but please persevere, as getting this part right makes the rest much easier. Then notice this tingly feeling spread over the whole right hand and arm and notice how you are beginning to lose awareness of the physical arm and just feel its expanded energy field.

While still maintaining the feelings above, now do the same thing with the left hand and arm until you just feel them as a mass of energy.

Continue the same process individually with the right foot, the right leg, the left foot, the left leg, then the trunk of the body - all tingling as you lose the physical sense of them one by one.

Then, be a fascinated observer to the mind chatter in the head and as you observe it in a neutral manner, it will switch off fairly quickly.

Focus gently on observing your breathing and feel inside where the breath is going. At a certain point shortly after that you will feel a definite energetic shift as you lose all sense of your physical body, becoming a mass of tingling energy instead - pure consciousness.

Stay in this wonderful space for as long as desired. It is from this place of pure Inner Stillness that you really feel yourself as Soul, with opportunities for the most amazing synchronicities and 'coincidences' in your life, helping you to move forward in ways you would never have imagined possible.

This makes a wonderfully rewarding daily meditation practice.

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(Copyright 2010 Michelle Mayur)
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BREAKING THROUGH BARRIERS

How often have you procrastinated about starting something important, creating unnecessary anxiety and worry, when it would have been a lot simpler and less stressful to just do it and get it out of the way? For many people the answer is probably more times than they care to remember.

What causes us to know what we should do and yet we seem almost incapable of taking that first step towards accomplishing it? The answer is that our conscious mind is like the tip of the iceberg, with the vast majority of our patterns and beliefs residing in the 90% of our mind that we term the subconscious. Most of these patterns and beliefs are established in early childhood, when we have limited coping strategies available to us, and these limiting patterns are then replayed over and over each time the subconscious mind perceives a similar event to the initial one in which the pattern/belief was established. We get stuck in a groove that just keeps getting deeper and deeper, unless we learn to view our behaviours objectively and break free of our limiting patterns and beliefs.

In the procrastination example above, common subconscious reasons for not starting something include:
• Fear of being adversely judged
• Fear of Failure
• Fear of the Unknown
• Perfectionist tendencies, and interestingly enough
• Fear of Success

Some people are even very talented subconsciously at manifesting illness as a way of avoiding responsibility or as a subconscious excuse not to challenge themselves.

CLUES you can get about those limiting beliefs, patterns and behaviours still operating repeatedly in your subconscious mind since childhood include:

1. Your relationships with other people
Do you repeatedly draw the same kind of people into your life, for instance, ones that don't value, respect or nurture you? Hard as it may be for you to accept, the mirror is being held up for you to look at yourself and see how you are not valueing, respecting or nurturing yourself. Each of these painful relationships that you draw into your life is an opportunity to reflect your inner beliefs about yourself. Usually the buttons others push in us the most are indicating what we most need to change in ourselves. For instance, if you say to your partner, "I deserve someone better than you", then consciously you may believe that, but subconsciously you have attracted exactly the partner you deserve according to your subconscious belief system about yourself.

Sure it is easier to blame and shame others for our own inadequacies and to be in denial that we need to work on ourselves, but this will just keep us stuck repeating the old destructive patterns.

What you accuse the other person of in the heat of an argument is often the very thing you need to look at in yourself. "But, but..." I hear you protest. Just try to observe yourself objectively next time you argue with someone. Often the mere act of being the observer is the trigger you need to become aware of your subconscious beliefs and the ridiculousness of the argument.

2. What you say to yourself when you are feeling really down
Sometimes when we get to the point where it all becomes a bit much too cope with, we lose our emotional equilibrium and start to berate ourselves, liberally pouring out limiting beliefs from that reservoir of the subconscious mind. In such a situation write these down, as these are the core limiting beliefs we still have about ourselves, no matter how much we might try to deny it. Common subconscious beliefs that come up at such times may include, "I am useless / worthless / a failure. I'll never be any good at anything." These are the Biggies that subconsciously sabotage our efforts to move forward in life and reach our full potential.

3. Negative self-talk
Ever caught yourself thinking "What an idiot!" after you made a simple mistake? This is an example of negative self-talk, which is a reflection of your beliefs at the subconscious level.

Once again, intend to be the observer and notice when you spontaneously have one of these negative thoughts. You may then like to view yourself as a gardener, pulling out the negative thoughts like weeds from your mind so that more positive thoughts can flourish. Practising this technique consistently will dissolve a whole lot of previously subconscious limiting beliefs.

AWARENESS THROUGH OBSERVATION is the key to breaking through and dissolving limiting and outmoded beliefs, habits and patterns. You can do much of this work for yourself. To make the process even quicker and easier you may like to try Hypnotherapy to identify limiting subconscious beliefs and patterns and their origins and then experience a powerful resolution of them.

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AROMATHERAPY

Aromatherapy has been used across many cultures since ancient times. Ancient Egyptians used specific aromatherapy oils as they were mummifying a body. On the heads of guests they also placed scented wax cones that would melt progressively releasing the fragrances of the essential oils. In modern-day France, famous for its high quality lavender oils, essential oils can be used internally instead of medicine by trained aromatherapists. Most countries restrict aromatherapy oils to external applications.

Aromatherapy uses the scents and chemical properties of essential oils to affect our emotions and moods as well as healing on a physical level. These are commonly used in oil burners (6 drops), massage oils (1 drop essential oil : 2 mls carrier oil), several drops in a bath or on a tissue. Use whichever oils you are drawn to or try any of the following. 2 or 3 oils may be blended together:

• Calming and Balancing lavender, marjoram, geranium, chamomile or mandarin

• Overthinking and Worry Relief sandalwood, frankincense, geranium, clary sage or vetiver

• Concentration and Memory Improvement rosemary, peppermint, basil, pine or lemon

• Invigorating and Uplifting orange, lemon, lime, grapefruit, peppermint

• Sensual and Erotic ylang ylang, jasmine, rose, patchouli

• Tension and Frustration Relief bergamot, orange, neroli

• Overburdened and Humourless Relief lemon and jasmine together

Try luxuriating in a warm bath with your favourite aromatherapy essential oils for a special treat. Remember that so-called aromatherapy oils marked ‘fragrance oil’ are synthetic and do not have any of the healing properties of pure essential oils. You get what you pay for.

Despite its high price tag, pure rose oil is probably the best oil for opening the heart to love and joy. Jasmine and neroli oils also work well and are a more affordable price.

Tea-tree oil is a must have for first aid as an antiseptic, for mouth ulcers or for fungal complaints, including thrush. Remember to dilute it heavily in water first. Peppermint oil can neutralize even the strongest odours. Neat lavender oil takes the itchiness out of insect bites, provided the skin is not broken. Bergamot is extremely effective for getting rid of cold sores.

Wherever possible use essential oils like lavender, lemon, orange and peppermint to make your own cleaning agents. Aromatherapy oils can also be added to your own shampoo and cosmetic bases as well as homemade soaps. These reduce the number of toxic synthetic fragrances in your environment, lessening the burden on your immune system and assisting you in holding a higher vibration.

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SOUND HEALING

It has only been over the last year or so that I am beginning to understand just how powerful Sound is as healing force. As a stand-alone vibrational healing tool I feel it has been under-rated for too long.

Meditating and toning as a group in pristine Tasmanian rainforest in 2007 sent our vibrations soaring as we focused on toning into our own chakras one by one, starting from the base up to beyond the crown to the 12th chakra or cosmic gateway. Using the light code activation sound and colour mandalas of Soluntra King was an unforgettable experience in vibration raising at the huge power tree of the forest.

On the 2007 Spiritual Egypt Tour I was blessed to have attracted many highly talented vibrational healers skilled across a broad range of vibrational modalities. Our skills culminated together in the King’s Chamber and the Queen’s Chamber of the Great Pyramid as each one of us did what we do best there. One diminutive lady had an extraordinary gift with channeling very powerful sounds she feels come from Sirius. The whole interior of the Great Pyramid, which we had to ourselves, reverberated with the intensity of this sound and at that point all of us were changed forever. For me, the experience was like having all my neural circuitry blown apart to be recallibrated at a higher vibration.

In 2008 my beautiful dog and best friend, Sophie, put up a long, brave fight against cancer, which she finally lost in August. The months leading up to her death had seen her in gradual decline, needing more and more nursing, with more and more time spent indoors. As a result the vibration of my home started to lower and at the point of Sophie’s death seemed to go into an energy void or numbness. As my home is also my workplace I needed to get its vibration and my own vibration quickly back to a level that was suitable for doing healing work with clients. At first I was just doing all the usual things - white candles constantly alight, aromatherapy oils to clear grief and be uplifting, airing the house out as much as possible, cleaning, salt lamps constantly on to absorb negativity and space clearing essence sprays. Then I became aware that the most powerful and quickest way of raising the vibration was through Sound and lots of it. Using the Tibetan singing bowl, I was clanging vigorously throughout the house. Interestingly, I seemed to intuitively follow particular rhythms in particular areas of the house. Those areas where Sophie had spent most time needed extremely loud and vigorous sounding of the Tibetan bowl to break up the stuck and blocked energy. Each day of the clearing procedure the rhythms were intuitively changing, as if this were all some part of a well-ordered sequence I had done many times before as an ancient priest/ess. My healing room developed a very sacred feel to it like an ancient temple. In addition I needed to have healing and uplifting music playing very loud for as many hours as possible, making even the floor vibrate. Thankfully the neighbours didn’t complain.

I have come to the conclusion that healing Sound is probably the best way to clear an area or person and to raise the vibration.

Ohm (om, aum) is the sound of creation and its vibration purifies, stills and manifests. Ohm is a sacred healing sound and can be used to release energetic blockages held within the body. When sounded properly as the combination of aah, oh, mm, it stimulates the third eye and crown chakras. Ohm can also alter the vibration of matter, causing fine sand on a metal plate to fall into a geometrical pattern – amazingly the ancient Hebrew symbol for ohm. It is the sound traditionally chanted in Indian temples to clear the way for enlightenment. Even sounding it or any other healing sound out loudly in your mind will have beneficial effects. Other sounds like heavy metal music, sirens, fax tones, loud television, public transport, many commercials, building site power tools and heavy machinery all shatter our energy field leaving us feeling tired and stressed with compromised immune systems. Many urban dwellers are constantly subjected to shattering sound, or ‘noise pollution’. How good does it feel to escape the raucous sounds of the city and hear the gentle sounds of the birds and the bush, or the sounds of rolling waves?

Soothing relaxation music enhances your enjoyment of your self-healing or self-nurturing session. Although any quiet music can be used according to taste, Baroque music, such as Bach, Vivaldi or Handel, is particularly beneficial due to its unique harmonic structure. Most guided visualisation tapes use relaxing background music and can enhance the benefits of the self-treatment experience.

The scale of C major is perfectly linked to the 8 major chakras, starting with C for the base chakra, D for the sacral chakra, E for the solar plexus and so on up to C for the high crown chakra, located a few centimetres above the crown chakra. If you suspect a block in a chakra try playing/listening to the corresponding note repeatedly to help loosen the block. I have a set of 8 tuning forks corresponding to the C major scale and also the first 8 chakras, up to the high crown. It is an interesting exercise to activate the vibration of the tuning fork and then bring it down gently over the corresponding chakra until the person experiences a pleasant tingly vibration in that chakra.

Often the heart chakra contains stubborn energetic blockages that we unconsciously resist letting go of, often through fear of not being able to handle the underlying emotional hurt or sadness. At a Reiki workshop I was running on the second floor of a clinic a few years ago we were all practicing in pairs. By ‘coincidence’ everyone was working on the heart chakra when a crow flew into an electrical substation a few metres away and exploded loudly in a flash of light. Everyone’s heart chakra was shocked into releasing energetic blocks instantly! Maybe that’s why I also like to stand very close to the massive loud speakers at open air music events, as it gives all my chakras a really good clearing out!

BREATHING/TONING RELEASES
A particularly powerful form of self-healing is to focus on the body discomfort held around a particular issue. On the inhale, deep breathe that discomfort up to the throat and then exhale it out fully with sound. Initially you might start breathing the discomfort out with a long, loud sigh or ‘ohm’. For those people who are too self-conscious to make a sound out loud or are not in a private enough space, it is still effective to just ‘yell’ the sound out in the mind. Ideally the sound that has been trapped in the area of discomfort will start to come out with the exhale. It can be any sound at all and maybe even trapped words, often the ‘not so nice’ ones. Make sure you open your throat chakra to allow the release, especially if you have not been used to speaking out.

Once the release of the blocked energy causing the body discomfort has been completed, the sound on the exhale will just naturally stop. Allow yourself to let the breathing return to normal. There may be several layers of an issue to be cleared, so check back to see if any body discomfort remains. If so, repeat the breathing/toning procedure. To complete the process, allow the void that has been created by releasing the trapped energy to be filled with whatever the body needs for healing, maybe love, peace, joy, or white light.

Clearings done with this breathing and toning technique tend to create rapid, powerful shifts in energy.

TIBETAN BOWLS AND CYMBALS
The haunting sound of Tibetan singing bowls vibrating can not only quickly clear your chakras, but sends you into a deep meditative state effortlessly. It is the quickest way I know for calming someone and bringing them into balance. Although it takes a bit of practice to get the bowl to ‘sing’, it is worth the effort. If you know of others with Tibetan singing bowls of different sizes, arrange a group gathering and experiment with the sound effects of different size bowls. You may like to lay the bowls on a person’s different chakras and then play them intuitively and then reverse roles and experience this for yourself. I often clear my own energy in between clients by placing the Tibetan bowl on my head, striking it and just letting the vibrations shower down through my body.

I use the Tibetan bowl as the quickest and most effective way to clear my healing space in between clients, as well as for clearing the accumulated client ‘dross’ from my healing room crystals. I also use the Tibetan cymbals for this purpose, but I find their vibration is more refined and needs a little longer to clear the energy.

Exercise: Toning into Chakras in a Group
Get a volunteer who would like her chakras to be balanced. Hold the intention to rebalance the chakras for the highest good. You may also like to ask that the angels of healing work through your voices. All take in a breath and tone towards the volunteer. Allow whatever sound wants to come out just to flow without judgment. It is likely the group will subconsciously combine the toning into a harmonious whole. Mentally direct the sound to her crown chakra. When you have finished, direct the sound to the third eye, then the throat, completing the toning into each chakra before moving onto the next. Tone into the front of the chakras to the base and then up the back chakras. Discuss the experience.

Exercise: 20-Minute Ohm
If you can do this with a Group the effect is even more powerful. Chanting Ohm mindfully in a sacred space for twenty minutes vibrates through every cell of your body and raises your vibration.


Go creative and experiment combining sound with other vibrational modalities. For instance, if you have a Tibetan singing bowl use a crystal in it while you are playing it or use a couple of drops of a flower essence in it to accentuate both.

Enjoy discovering the delights of healing with sound.

Link: Sound Healing

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GIVING / RECEIVING

Working in the healing industry tends to draw compassionate, caring people as practitioners. Although this is ideally what clients / patients want from health professionals like counsellors, naturopaths, social workers, hypnotherapists, psychologists and so on, the common problem is that such practitioners usually are so busy giving to their clients that they forget to give back to themselves or have closed themselves off from receiving as much as they should energetically to remain energetically balanced. If the two sides of the giving/receiving equation are not balanced, the result is physical and emotional burnout. The average time in the healing industry before complete burnout is 8 years. I’ve been in this industry since 1995 and have had a few rocky patches where my energy levels were getting very low from giving out far more than I was receiving back, so I have learnt to recognise the signs of impending burnout by trial and error. We don’t need to necessarily receive back from the same person the same amount of energy we give to them, although this is the ideal wherever possible. If you are in professional practice you should ensure your fees cover your perceived energy expenditure.

Basically, in order to stay physically and emotionally healthy we must balance out what we give out energetically with what we receive back.

I have used the example of health care practitioners, but mothers, wives, in fact females in general are often giving out far more than they receive. The result? A build-up of resentment, frustration, low tolerance to stress, exhaustion, victim-mentality, martyr-mentality, ‘when will it be my turn’ mentality and just plain angry outbursts. Can you relate to any of these?

Sometimes we need to make substantial lifestyle changes to get away from this trap, such as letting go of a relationship or friend that just continually drains us energetically. I affectionately call such people, ‘energy vampires’, although most of them are not consciously aware of trying to drain our energy. They do it at subtle levels just because our energy fields allow it. If your job just feels as if it is draining the very life-blood out of you, then you may seriously need to consider changing jobs or even careers.

Many of us have low self-worth and almost feel duty-bound to keep on giving out relentlessly to justify our existence without feeling worthy of receiving anything back in return. Wrong! We all contain a divine spark within us that unites us together as equal parts of creation. We are never separate or inferior. Separation is the illusion we have to give ourselves a hard time. Stop viewing yourself as inferior to, or better than someone else - we are all just souls who have chosen different bodies this lifetime in which to learn spiritual lessons.

It is essential we are comfortable receiving from others and especially receiving from ourselves, as this is an expression of self-love. Many times others are offering us love or potential happiness, but our hearts are closed to receiving it or we feel we are not valuable enough to receive it. Think for a moment if there are any situations in your life where you are closed to or blocking receiving the goodness being offered to you. It may be something simple like a neighbour offering to help with the gardening or more dramatic like a marriage proposal from a really decent person.

How do you support yourself to make up any energetic deficits in your life? Maybe you could give yourself a special present or treat, like a relaxation massage, a weekend escape or dinner with a special friend? Being in nature is one of the best ways of clearing negative energy from yourself and of receiving the beauty of nature with all your senses. Standing in full sun for a few minutes is also a marvellous quick energetic pick-me-up.

Most of us don’t have any trouble in giving, but if you realise you have trouble in receiving, then it is essential you address your underlying issues of low self-worth and the value you place on what you give out on a daily basis.

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